Investigate Wife
No one wants to be in the position of investigating a spouse, be it
a cheating husband or wife, or a spouse hiding assets,
or a loving partner who has started being secretive
However: What You Don't Know CAN Hurt You
What can you do to find out without offending your Wife?
You Can Gradually Take Steps to Find Out
Use the recommended steps below as a guide to quietly find out
the truth and take action only if absolutely necessary.
The escalating scale of actions should be subtle enough for you
to conduct your search and draw conclusions without ever
being noticed (until you feel compelled to serve notice).
You May Even Want to Try This First to Spark Her
Interest in You Again
The Three Most Dangerous Threats to Your Family
Come from:
Social Networks
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Emails
- Cell Phone Conversations and Texts
Understanding and Mitigating the Threats
from These Outside Influences Can Protect Your Marriage
Free and Anonymous Social Networks Like Facebook Can Tempt a Wife
The first most dangerous point of contact is social networks. These networks are frequently anonymous, and provide easy ways for predators to attack your family, whether a child predator or adultress is after someone in your family. Catching a straying husband or wife on a social network can be extremely difficult. (Here's one way to catch a cheating wife on social networks). It is very easy for men to hide out on social networks and flirt anonymously until they find 'a catch'. If you're lucky, your wife's flirt interests may not be hiding their identities, making catching your wife before it's too late much more likely. Your opportunity to confront her gently can come via email...
Be Subtle - Mention Her Anonymous Pseudonym Email Addresses Casually and Reel Her Back
My favorite way of getting a wife thinking she needs to right the ship is to find clever ways of using her 'secret' emails or usernames in casual conversation. You're bound to drive her nuts trying to figure out whether you know about 'him' or not. If her 'secret email name' is Banana Berry, mention banana berrier every once in a while when she picks up a banana. Watch her think twice about eating it. If she eats it without thinking, it may already be too late. She may already have traded cell phone numbers and...
Mysterious Cell Phone Callers Are A Warning Sign of Imminent Threat
If you've found out your wife does have an anonymous social network identity and you're concerned she may try to contact the men who have been flirting with her, this is the point where you have to take the risk of offending your wife. You're going to have to get a hold of her cell phone long enough to see the last few numbers she's called (or have called her). Take that info and invest in a cheap reverse cell phone search service. Find out who the identities are on those phone numbers and where they live. Any men calling your wife frequently without your knowledge can be real trouble for you. The next step is often unmentionable and painful. So you're certain she's been cheating on you, what then?
Now It's Time to Find Where She's Hiding Money
Now we're talking impending separation... but before you lay your cards on the table you need to do some light digging to see whether she's been hiding money and or assets from you. The good news it can be incredibly cheap to find out. Check out this sample background check. It costs about $10 a year for unlimited background searches yet look at the very bottom. What do you see? That's right, real estate assets. It's not going to give you every last detail about her activities but if you see assets listed on the report which you don't recognize... it may be time to start talking to an attorney (and bring the asset reports with you).
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