Investigate Spouse
Heaven Forbid You Ever Find Yourself in the Position
Where You Find It Necessary to Investigate a Spouse
Any of The Symptoms of a Disinterested Spouse
Can Be Totally Innocent
It Could Be:
- Stress
- Fear
- Worry
- A million other things not threatening to you
How Do You Tell the Difference?
What can you do to find out without offending your spouse?
The Most Dangerous Threats to Your Relationship
Come from:
Social Networks
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Emails
- Cell Phone Conversations and Texts
Understanding and Eliminating the Threats
from Outside Influences Can Protect Your Relationship
Facebook, MySpace, Plenty of Fish, etc. - Social Networks Can Tempt a Spouse
The first most dangerous point of contact is social networks. These networks are frequently anonymous, and provide easy ways for predators to attack your family, whether a child predator or adultress is after someone in your family. Catching a straying husband or wife on a social network can be extremely difficult. (Here's one way to catch a cheating spouse on social networks). It is very easy for men to hide out on social networks and flirt anonymously until they find 'a catch'. If you're lucky, your husband's flirt interests may not be hiding their identities, making catching your spouse before it's too late much more likely. Your opportunity to confront him gently comes via email...
Mentioning That Anonymous Email Address or Addresses Casually Can Really Wake Him Up
My favorite way of getting a spouse thinking he needs to right the ship is to find clever ways of using his 'secret' emails or usernames in casual conversation. You're bound to drive him nuts trying to figure out whether you know about 'her' or not. If his 'secret email name' is California fruit fly, mention fruit flies every once in a while when he picks up a piece of fruit. Watch him think twice about eating it. If he eats it without thinking, it may already be too late. He may already have traded cell phone numbers and...
Cell Phones, Texting, Emails, Etc. - Contact Is A Real Sign of an Imminent Threat to Your Relationship
If you've found out your spouse does have an anonymous social network identity and you're concerned she may try to contact the men who have been flirting with her, this is the point where you have to take the risk of offending your spouse. You're going to have to get a hold of her cell phone long enough to see the last few numbers she's called (or have called her). Take that info and invest in a cheap reverse cell phone search service. Find out who the identities are on those phone numbers and where they live. Any men calling your spouse frequently without your knowledge can be real trouble for you. The next step is often unmentionable and painful. So you're certain she's been cheating on you, what then?
Now It's Time Find Whether He's Hiding Assets from You Too
Now we're talking impending separation... but before you lay your cards on the table you need to do some light digging to see whether he's been hiding money and or assets from you. The good news it can be incredibly cheap to find out. Check out this sample background check. It costs a few dollars for unlimited property record searches yet look at the very bottom. What do you see? That's right, real estate assets*. It's not going to give you every last detail about his activities but if you see assets listed on the report which you don't recognize... it may be time to start talking to an attorney (and bring the asset reports with you).
* - formats of background checks may change without notice
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