Investigate Husband
No one wants to be in the position of investigating a spouse, be it
a cheating husband or wife, or a spouse hiding assets,
or a loving partner who has started being secretive
However: What You Don't Know CAN Hurt You
If you came to this page, you're worried about your husband
He's not at home as much?
He doesn't pay attention to you?
He takes calls which he seems to enjoy
more than conversations with you?
Any of These Symptoms of a Disinterested Husband
Can Be Totally Innocuous
He Could Be:
- Suffering stress
- Having difficulty expressing fear
- Worried about something he's trying to protect you from
- Thinking about a million other things not threatening to you
That said
What can you do to find out without offending your Husband?
The Three Most Dangerous Threats to Your Family
Come from:
Social Networks
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Emails
- Cell Phone Conversations and Texts
Understanding and Mitigating the Threats
from These Outside Influences Can Protect Your Family
Social Networks Like MySpace and Facebook Can Tempt a Husband
The first most dangerous point of contact is social networks. These networks are frequently anonymous, and provide easy ways for predators to attack your family, whether a child predator or adultress is after someone in your family. Catching a straying husband or wife on a social network can be extremely difficult. (Here's one way to catch a cheating husband on social networks). It is very easy for men to hide out on social networks and flirt anonymously until they find 'a catch'. If you're lucky, your husband's flirt interests may not be hiding their identities, making catching your husband before it's too late much more likely. Your opportunity to confront him gently comes via email...
Mention His Anonymous Email Addresses Casually and Reel Him Back
My favorite way of getting a husband thinking he needs to right the ship is to find clever ways of using his 'secret' emails or usernames in casual conversation. You're bound to drive him nuts trying to figure out whether you know about 'her' or not. If his 'secret email name' is California fruit fly, mention fruit flies every once in a while when he picks up a piece of fruit. Watch him think twice about eating it. If he eats it without thinking, it may already be too late. He may already have traded cell phone numbers and...
Cell Phone Contact Is A Sign of Imminent Danger to Your Family
If you've found out your husband does have an anonymous social network identity and you're concerned he may try to contact the women who have been flirting with him, this is the point where you have to take the risk of offending your husband. You're going to have to get a hold of his cell phone long enough to see the last few numbers he's called (or have called him). Take that info and invest in a cheap reverse cell phone search service. Find out who the identities are on those phone numbers and where they live. Any women calling your husband frequently without your knowledge can be real trouble for you. The next step is often unmentionable and painful. So you're certain he's been cheating on you, what then?
Now It's Time Find Whether He's Hiding Assets from You Too
Now we're talking impending separation... but before you lay your cards on the table you need to do some light digging to see whether he's been hiding money and or assets from you. The good news it can be incredibly cheap to find out. Check out this sample background check. It costs about $10 a year for unlimited background searches yet look at the very bottom. What do you see? That's right, real estate assets. It's not going to give you every last detail about his activities but if you see assets listed on the report which you don't recognize... it may be time to start talking to an attorney (and bring the asset reports with you).
